The Summer Friend

In Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird, there is a character named Dill who is a “summer friend” to Atticus Finch’s children, Jem and Scout (Jean Louise). Every summer Dill comes to a relative’s house and has various adventures with Jem and Scout.

Harper Lee had such a “summer friend” but for more than a summer. That friend was Truman Capote who was pretty much banished to his aunt’s house in Alabama as a result of his parents’ divorce. Lee, though 2 years younger, protected the small, sensitive Capote from the local bullies and they bonded from a shared love of reading.

In 1960, Capote begin work on what would become his most famous book, In Cold Blood. It detailed the murder of the Clutter family in their home in Holcomb, Kansas. The citizens of Holcomb and law enforcement were put off by Capote’s personality but they were enamored of Harper Lee’s Southern graciousness as she had journeyed to Holcomb to help Capote with the book and, because of her, the people of Holcomb opened up to this unlikely pair.

A year later, in 1961, Lee published To Kill a Mockingbird which not only won her a Pulitzer Prize but went on to sell over 30 million copies and be made into an extremely popular movie. It was also the beginning of the end of her friendship with Capote who was overcome by jealousy at her recognition and financial success. His own book, In Cold Blood, was finally published in 1966. It was widely recognized as a fine work and was a commercial success but it did not hold a candle to To Kill a Mockingbird.

My summer friend is Tilly which is not her baptized name. More on that later. Unlike Capote, Tilly will never be jealous nor is disloyal because Tilly belongs to a species in which loyalty is inbred. Tilly is a sweet tempered, medium sized yellow Labrador retriever.

In most cases, people seem to be either “dog” people or “cat” people although, to be sure, some people can be both, which I suppose means that a person can be “non-binary” when it comes to pets. As a complete and unrelated aside, the current “non-binary” sex discussion is a deep dive down the rabbit hole. Currently, there is a play in London (“I, Joan”) where Joan of Arc declares “I am not a girl.” True. Really? Yes.

My late friend Mike Busch (see previous blog titled “My Best Friend Died on Sunday” dated May 27, 2019) was Tilly’s stepfather. He bought Tilly for his daughters Erin (age 14) and Megan (age 12). The girls then asked “Daddy, what are we going to name her?” Mike, who was never at a loss for a good response, proclaimed Tilly’s baptized name: “Her name is Matilda Erin Megan Busch, III and we’re going to call her Tilly.”

Tilly is now 12 years old and she has been spending most of this summer at our home on the Eastern Shore of Maryland. Tilly has been a visitor for the last seven or eight years. At first, we just helped Mike avoid kennel boarding fees while on his family beach vacation. One week became two, then a month, then most of the summer.

I was always told that 1 dog year equaled 7 human years which would make Tilly 84. However, current thinking (pets.webmd.com) indicates that Tilly is 69. Whether her age is 84 or 69 is really of no moment since Tilly has not gotten either memo. She has the energy of an average 12-year-old kid and, while she has lost a step or two over the years, from the very beginning she was high-octane. If Tilly were a 12-year-old child, a child psychologist might diagnose her as having a hyperactivity disorder and prescribe Xanax or a similar medicine. I think that the truth is that Tilly is just high on life.

Does Tilly have any peculiarities? Not really unless you count a preternatural fixation on tennis balls. There is not a tennis ball that Tilly will not try to retrieve and you can throw it once, twice, 10 or 20 times and the ball will come back to you. Often, the ball is caught in mid-air. But the best time is when the Ball is retrieved from the swimming pool which looks like this:

Now that summer is “officially” over, Tilly will eventually return to Cindy, Erin and Megan Busch although I’m pretty sure that Tilly will contest the end of summer until such time as the pool cover is applied.

A few years ago Pope Francis upset the theological mandarins in the Vatican by consoling a young boy and implying that he would meet his just deceased dog in heaven.

I am with the Pope on this.

My only question is whether Tilly will give out just a single bark to tell Saint Peter to open the gate as she does to tell us to open our door.

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10 thoughts on “The Summer Friend

  1. William Clark

    “Must love dogs” A stolen line but they are so much smarter than humans with a better moral compass.

  2. Tom Figel

    Jay, As you must realize, Tilly is the draw that brings the Figels to your summer retreat again and again. Or did you suppose the comfortable bedrooms, the unlimited wifi, the shrimp and crabs were the attraction? Tilly is just plain good company. Remarkable in this time, she holds her tongue when politics are the discussion topic. For this reason alone, she deserves all the love you express in your terrific essay. – Love, Tom & Nancy

  3. Don Hynes

    Hi Jay, Wonderful column, actually two columns, one about Capote and Lee, the other about Tilly. I’d add a few thoughts about the first. One note, when Lee‘s “Mockingbird” was published Capote was already a well known author because of “Breakfast at Tiffany’s,” a major success even before the film. Lee’s novel is about the America gone by, a sentimental and I believe accurate view of those who acted with virtuous character in the Jim Crow south and other regions of the US where racism was the accepted norm. Atticus was the hero America wanted to be, not in the John Wayne mold but in the thoughtful quiet courage of a Jimmy Stewart or Gary Cooper. Capote’s “In Cold Blood” on the other hand, was writing about the underbelly of American culture. When he wrote the novel I don’t think many observers saw our country as a breeding ground for sociopathy that the recent urban scene of addicts in the streets, mindless violence and the long list of social decay portray. There’s unfortunately plenty of material on the internet of adolescents beating elderly people senseless without cause, not even robbery. Wasn’t that the character of Capote’s villains? Lee’s writing was a significant contribution to our culture yet i believe Capote’s was as well, of the dark side which we ignore at our peril with our well oiled tendency toward exceptionalism. Capote’s mother was a nightmare and his father completely absent. Sound familiar? I’d like to think we could use both Lee and Capote’s insights in America 2.0.

  4. Jimmy

    Who doesn’t love Tilly? To know Tilly is to love Tilly. She is a goofy blonde. Human comparisons at at your peril.

  5. Joe Blake

    Jay,
    I love this piece. I love dogs. We have had six in my lifetime. Years ago a friend reminded me that of the obvious- that dog was god spelt backwards. And dogs were lucky, they can see their god every day. I have to admit that I was so caught up in the workaday world I did overlook the obvious. I have three dogs in urns in the house awaiting burial somplace. There is a saying about pets wating for us at the rainbow bridge. I do indeed hope that is true. As I get older I am unsure of the hereafter story. Like so many things it all seems beyond comprehension except to imagine walking with old four legged friends in some beautiful green English countryside. May it be so,
    Joe

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